Do you tend to bottle up difficult emotions? Do you often resort to escapism, distracting yourself to soothe yourself? Do you surrender to certain unhealthy habits just because they make you feel better, even if it's only for a little while?
Do these questions make you feel uncomfortable? If they do, trust me, you're not alone.
The Emotional Struggle
Even though we are (very) slowly headed in the right direction, I find that in our modern culture there is still not enough education around emotional health. We generally feel uncomfortable dealing with emotions, especially difficult ones, because we haven't been taught how to deal with them in a healthy way.
I recently shared a poll on my Instagram Stories, asking you which of the following four steps you struggle with the most.
Notice the emotion.
Name the emotion.
Sit with the emotion.
Let the emotion Go.
And the winner of our Emotional Struggle Award was..... *drum roll*..... #3! Followed closely by #4, while a few of you also struggle with #2.
At least we're all able to notice that we have feelings -- phew.
But let's think about this... Considering we have so many tempting ways to distract, numb or altogether avoid our emotions, it makes sense to me that most people struggle simply sitting with whatever they are feeling in that moment. It's uncomfortable to consciously sit with your emotions, especially if they are difficult ones. Notice how I'm using the word "difficult" instead of "negative"? That's because I believe there is no such thing as a negative emotion. I can see you frowning at me.
Let me explain.
The Gift Of Emotions
We've generally been taught to label emotions as either "good" or "bad."
Good emotions would be happiness, joy, excitement, love, etc.
Bad emotions would be anger, frustration, sadness, jealousy, etc.
Sure, often times the experience of what we would consider "bad emotions" is not what one would describe as stereotypically pleasant. That's why we prefer to avoid them altogether, and aim to only experience the "good emotions" in life.
Which is not only impossible, but emotionally unhealthy.
You see, every difficult emotion you experience is in fact communicating something to you. It is trying to tell you when you are lacking something in life; when you are misaligned with your purpose; when your values aren't being honored; and what it is that you need (more or less of) in this very moment.
Emotions are messages sent through you and to you, from the core of who you are as a human being.
On a conscious level you may not understand that something isn't right in a certain moment or situation; but your subconscious, your intuition, your gut -- they usually feel when something is off and they're telling (or sometimes yelling at) you.
So you see, if you keep ignoring your difficult emotions instead of listening to what they are communicating, you are missing out on vital information about your own needs. It may be uncomfortable to listen to these confrontational messages, but they are essentially telling you what you need to do (and not do) to live a more fulfilling life.
And if you are in need of a little more guidance, support and accountability on your journey -- get yourself a coach. As a co-active coach it is my purpose to hold space for you to explore all of the above within yourself. A space free of judgment and full of emotional support. A space where you can safely gain that self-awareness that is essential for emotional health.
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